“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.” – Galatians 5:22-26
I’m sure most of you pretty much already know the answer to the title’s question. But if you don’t, let me answer it for you.
No, throwing shade is not Christ Like. It doesn’t edify, and it’s a form of gossip, and provoking one another.
As Christians, most of us have a good idea on gossip and what it is. We’ve heard the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it all” practically our entire lives. So, even as children we got a good glimpse on the term gossip. The term, throwing shade is a new term for our generation that pretty much sums up to: “Saying something about someone without making it direct.” Or in other words, giving social media a puzzle to solve, and giving that specific person a match to your fire. All in all, it’s not helping anyone, and it’s certainly not pleasing God. Therefore, it’s not ok.
The reason, I said throwing shade rather than just plain out spilling the beans using the word gossip is because a lot of us Christians don’t see anything wrong with throwing it another’s way. We’ll use the excuse, “Well, I just want them to understand where I’m coming from” or “I just want them to see my point of view” without having to be an adult and directly communicating with them, causing things to be taken out of proportion.” Most of the time, our intentions aren’t necessarily bad, most of the time, it’s just a misunderstanding and a lack of communication. Which is why, we should genuinely dig deep into the word, and learn how to love and communicate with our brothers and sisters in Christ, and learn how to build each other up more, rather than tear each other down.
Instead of throwing shade, shed some light. You can’t shine throwing shade.
My advice to you would be, don’t throw shade. It will fuel your Spirit with unwanted things that don’t belong there. It will block many blessings, rather than letting them freely come through. It doesn’t matter what they’ve done to you, you have been called to forgive. Even if it may take some time for you, when you begin to feel those vast urges to gossip and run to social media to be your vent. Run the complete opposite way to God, and tell him everything. Let God and His Holy Spirit lead you, not your emotions. Pray these situations out until you feel peace. Sometimes we have to be the adults and apologize to the person, even if we didn’t necessarily do anything wrong, and let them know that they are in our prayers, and that we forgive them, and we pray that they forgive us also. And sometimes, it’s God’s will that we take breaks from others, and to just love and pray for them from a distance for a while. Not everyone is meant to be in your life, and not everyone is meant to be close to you. That’s okay.
Even if you find that the other person begins talking about you and throwing shade your way, if you have to unfollow them to stay focused and keep your eyes on God, please do that and by all means: do not respond back to toxic people. All in all, pray for them. Practice peace with others, and learn the wisdom of keeping quiet and taking everything to the heart of God in prayer. Show others the God in you by shedding light, rather than throwing shade. Show others that you were meant to shine, and that they can too.
“Let everything you do, be done in love.”
– I Corinthians 16:14
(Other Verses to Support This: Proverbs 20:19, Proverbs 13:3, Leviticus 19:16, Proverbs 26:20-22, Romans 16:18, Psalms 12:2)