Christian Dating 101


1 Corinthians 10:31 – Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.


So, here goes the topic that pulls feathers on some and wags tails with others. But for those of you who are curious and eager to know just how God wants us to date, by all means was putting this together at 1:30am in the morning necessary. This is just for you.

           1. Know who you are in Christ

With being a Christian, it’s important to make sure that you have a healthy, intimate, relationship with God before you try to go outside of Him and seek a relationship elsewhere. Usually, when you do otherwise it doesn’t work out, this is coming from a place of personal experience from not only myself, but many others. I’m sure you have had this experience or know someone who has. When you yield to God and completely make Him your center, you discover who you are in Him. When you discover who you are, you become sure of exactly what you want out of your life according to his plan for yours. Doing this gives you confidence in finding a partner who would make a great fit in your life. But with that being said, remain patient in the Lord. If you are confident that God has called you to marry, he will deliver.

“But from there you will seek the LORD your God, and you will find Him if you search for Him with all your heart and all your soul.” – Deuteronomy 4:29

           2. Date with a Purpose

Dating with a purpose means to date someone who will meet the values and goals that you plan to have for a future spouse. Casual or purposeless dating has absolutely no benefit for Christians. In fact, casual and purposeless dating are usually confound in a harvest of sin. We must remember that sinful pleasure only lasts for a season, that’s why it’s so important for us to date with a purpose and marry for a reason. Date someone who carries a deep desire to worship God with you and pray with you. Date someone who wants to make God the center of your relationship.

“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

        3.  Your Body Belongs to Christ

Save your precious bodies until you are married. This falls under knowing who you are in Christ and respecting not only your body, but God’s body. The Bible says that our bodies are temples of the Holy Ghost, meaning that we belong to God before anything or anyone else. Pursue a pure mind. Set your God, your boundaries, your goals, and your values, at the table before that person when you start dating. Sharing these talks are important. Doing this, you’re letting them know that you desire to have respect in certain areas that deeply mean a lot to you and that you won’t compromise with. If they care enough about you and desire a future with you, they will respect you and your needs. I’m not denying the underlying fact that temptation may never arise, but what I am saying is to fight your way out of it at your best ability through prayer. The Bible says that God will never allow us to be tempted more than we can bear, that he will make a way for us to escape. Ask in prayer and you shall receive. I want you to also always keep in mind that you don’t have to chase what God sent.

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” – I Corinthians 6:19

“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a man can commit is outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” – I Corinthians 6:18

“Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.” – Ephesians 5:17

“We know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of sin might be rendered powerless, that we should no longer be slaves to sin.” – Romans 6:6

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13

         4. Don’t date non-believers

The ultimate purpose is making a covenant with God, with that covenant comes sanctification. The Bible says that marriage is between God, the Husband and the Wife. If you have a spouse who doesn’t even believe in God, how can you have the sanctified covenant with your God and a non-believer? That makes your relationship unequally yoked, which can lead you to drifting you away from God. There are many cases where this has happened in the Bible. I want you to also remember that when two marry they become one. It’s important for you to be in or make a constant attempts to be in agreement with each other and have your hearts settled on the same page.

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”- II Corinthians 6:14


5. Don’t Ignore Signs, Know what Love Is

The Bible tells us that God is love. God has such a deep, unconditional, graceful, forgiving love towards us, his children. God’s love is perfect, there is none like His. This is the same love that we should practice with one another. This is the same love that should be given towards our spouse. I want you to know that abuse, a tendency to lie, cheating, and verbal abuse is not love. Don’t ignore the signs, know what love is. Know that everyone you date, is not going to be the one. Dating is a rehearsal for marriage, that’s why it’s important to have an intimate relationship with Christ first, never make a decision without God giving you the thumbs up. And don’t worry, he will show you the signs. This is vital. Making him apart of every decision you make is important, it helps your relationship to grow further. By doing, this you’re showing Him that you trust Him. 

The Bible tells us that the heart is deceitful above all things (Jeremiah 17:9). Sometimes we get so tangled in our own feelings, that we forget about God’s plan and what he ultimately wants for us. So even when you may feel like someone is the one, don’t ever forget to just simply take it to God in prayer. Even if they’re not the one, know that it’s because God has something better in store for you. Follow the Holy Spirit, not your own emotions. Keep in mind to be patient and wait on the Lord. He will answer you.


1 John 4:7 – Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
1 Peter 4:8 – And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.

1 John 4:18 – There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Luke 6:35 – But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and [to] the evil.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 – Charity suffereth long, [and] is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.Charity never faileth: but whether [there be] prophecies, they shall fail; whether [there be] tongues, they shall cease; whether [there be] knowledge, it shall vanish away.

1 Corinthians 14:33 – For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.



Praying for His happiness and peace to consume you whole. Much love, Aliyah Avina.


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